I once had a friend who had a penchant for taking off her shoes at my door and placing them on my dining room table. I remember the first time she did it, my jaw must have dropped, but I didnt say a word. I wondered silently, why she didnt just leave them at the door or on her feet. But, the dining room table? And why I put up with this rudeness for several years without saying a word – well I am ashamed of myself – I just cant imagine why anyone would put their shoes on anyone’s dining room table. Passive agressive? Hmmm.
This led me to the internet to see if anyone was chatting about such rude behavior and what I learned is there is a movement going on. Little did I know. It’s about being invited as a guest to someone’s home and being directed to remove your shoes. This is usually due to the host/hostess not wanting their white carpet dirtied, phobia of typical everyday germs entering their home, wanting to be “green”. Or you have to wonder what the hidden agenda is. Hmmmm.
EEEK, I think. You invite me to an almost black tie event for cocktails at your house on the river and I put on my best threads. Do up my hair real nice, perfect make-up, matching bag, and a select pair of shoes to go great with my outfit and keep my painful tootsies comfy while I am sipping on your $1000 bottles of champaign. BUT ~ did I get a pedicure? Of course not! Just hours before the party, I was slopping though the rain and mud with my Labrador Retriever. My toenails have black mud and brown gunk under them right now, but we’ll clean that up AFTER the party. I do truly look forward to putting on my most favorite BEAUTIFEEL shoes that will keep my feet cozy and happy.
Then, as I cross the threshhold of your foyer, I’m told, “leave your shoes at the door, dear.” Oooooh, you mean I now have to expose my cold, bare unky gunky feet to a room full of strangers?
Was my mother wrong when she told me to never leave the house without shoes on?
She was a wise woman and I learned a lot from her. One thing she taught me was to not go barefoot in a guest’s home – it is rude and obnoxious.
Sooooooooo, I am about to prepare my list of reasons why it is rude and obnoxious to tell your guests to remove their shoes at the door, unless you offer them socks or slippers to wear.
I’ll post a few links here, but, right now, my feet are bare and very cold, so I’m going to put on some socks and OMG shoes in the house!!!!! Forgive me for wanting warm, tender, happy tootsies… The list will be arriving soon, please check back soon.